Ever since the first appearance of the bizarre couple and their beloved macabre family in the single-panel cartoons section of The New Yorker in 1938, Gomez and Morticia Addams have been the pop-culture epitome of a healthy relationship - just leaving out the criminal.
Later shifting into other media like the 1964 TV-series The Addams Family, the early 90's feature films and the most recent animations, Gomez and Morticia's love language - although filled to the brim with inappropriately morbid punch-lines and many obscure sexual innuendos, showcased some of the most valuable principles to a flourishing romance.
In this article we look at some of our favourite Gomez and Morticia romance scenes to give you Mr and Mrs Addams's 10 tips to a lasting, perhaps even eternal, relationship.
1. Support your partner's interests
Starting off pretty straight-forward: relationship = support
Although it sounds pretty basic, we often find ourselves stuck in a routine and simply forget to show our encouragement for our partner's goals - which, let's admit, can begin to sting after a while. We all need a pep talk from time to time, especially if it comes from the one we love.
Here is your reminder to show your loved one that you care.
2. Compliments - always!
Another thing that often falls behind from the daily routine - but is incredibly important - compliments!
Wooing your partner, giving them a boost of confidence and more than anything - reminding them of your affection, can go a long way.
Listen to Gomez - he knows what he's doing.
3. Respect your partner's quirks
Going back to the support bit - you opinion and encouragement matters, sometimes more than anyone else's.
So everything is going great and all of a sudden your partner develops a strong interest for obscure tribal instruments? Yes, those sounds might be exceptionally annoying after a few hours, and yes, the animal skin used to make the instruments might smell slightly odd, but hey - there might be some positives to the situation. If anything, your partner's just found something that makes them happy and they want to share it with you - what's so bad about that?
A good conversation followed by a few creative solutions, you'll come to the realisation that whatever was bothering you is absolutely manageable - and your acceptance for your partner is what matters in the long run.
4. Attentiveness is key
We all have those no-bones days - when it just feels like the skeleton has left your body and all you can do is blob around. Having someone to relay on in those moments can certainly make a difference.
What a better way to show your partner you care about them than to cater to their needs - even if it's small things like bringing them a glass of water, rubbing their shoulders or getting them their favorite snack. It all amounts to a caring relationship!
5. Don't be afraid to spice things up
It's never too late to bring something new to the table.
A relationship can get stale in any aspect, so introducing new things is always a good idea. After all, it's better to experiment with someone you trust by your side - or you know, in some other position.
6. Keep on flirting
At any given opportunity, remind your partner that you desire them.
It's no secret that one of the curses of long relationships, including marriage, is loosing the fire and passion you had in the beginning. That's why it's incredibly important to remind yourself and your partner of your feelings for them - and while you're at it, add a bit of teasing and anticipation. Make plans just for the two of you, build up to it. Make it an occasion. The wait will pay off.
7. Challenge each other
Playfulness and more of it.
After a while it may begin to feel like you've seen all of each other - and while that's not necessarily a bad thing, it's no reason not to mix things up. It's always good to get out of your comfort zone - at least occasionally. So why not surprise each other from time to time? Do dares. Sign up for hockey lessons, join a cinema club, try a themed bar or travel somewhere new. You have a full world of opportunities - and who knows where you'll find the rush.
8. When shit hits the fence, be there for them
Here's where comfort and trust come in.
Something that the Addams's are exceptionally good at is sensing each other's emotions and knowing exactly when to comfort and when to act. Sometimes the best thing you can do is just make yourself available for your partner and wait for them to come to you. In other words, when the storm hits, be an open shelter.
9. Remind each other what made you fall in love
How did you meet? When did you realise how you feel for each other?
Don't miss an opportunity to give your significant other a reminder of what brought you together, commemorate that special moment when you knew they were your special someone.
Tell the tale, we bet it's a good one.
10. Don't wait for a special occasion to celebrate your love
Who needs anniversaries and cupid-themed holidays when you can show your affection for each other on the daily.
Hey, don't get us wrong - there's nothing bad about special occasions, all we're saying is why not celebrate the little things, a little more often. Why should we only have a candle-lit dinner this one time in February?
Let's waltz together every night.
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